To celebrate the launch of Millie and the American Proposal on Amazon, I’ve asked authors and bloggers to talk proposals. Today, it’s the turn of Kirsty from Love of a Good Book to tell us how not to propose to her.
But the more I thought about it, the more I realised that I’ve never dreamt about a proposal.
Ask me what my wedding dress would be like, what my father and brother would be wearing (a kilt in our families tartan just in case you were wondering) and who my flower girl would be, these are things I’ve thought about.
I feel the need to clarify in case any potential suitors are reading, my thoughts drift to my wedding in a non crazy way, I don’t sit around in a wedding dress, writing out place settings and circling the singles page.
Anyway I digress, when it comes to proposals I’ve never thought about what how I would like to be proposed to, but I do however think about what I wouldn’t!
To anyone who has had the following proposals, I am not in anyway saying they lack romance or originality, I’m just saying they aren’t for me.
1) If she says it isn’t working, don’t pull out the marriage card!
What, I hear you cry, no one would do that!
This is the marriage proposal I have experienced.
After discovering we didn’t really know each other, yes he knew what I liked for dinner & how I took my drink but he didn’t seem to understand that I didn’t like cheating and that my lack of happiness was down to him and the several girls who messaged me on Facebook about him.
On the day that I expressed this, he fell to his knees (not one, both) and asked me to marry him. His belief that this gesture would fix everything, was thankfully, lost on me.
2) If it’s on the calendar it’s a no!
I would hate to be asked on Christmas Day, My birthday, My parents’ anniversary. My niece’s birthday.
(noticing a pattern here)
These days are already special to me, they already hold beautiful memories. I would like a day that can become magical, a day that would hold all the promises of our future together. A day that can be both special for him and me.
3) Show me the bling!
So he’s gone through all this effort of planning a proposal and you’ve said yes. But you don’t have a ring, any woman will tell you, that after they’ve contacted their friends and family they tend to be asked a few questions, how did it happen? Have you set a date yet? What’s the RING like?
The only acceptable venue for not having a ring would be a jewellery store.
4) Show me you know me!
I love books, I am often gushing over a book, it’s not a fact I hide.
So let’s imagine a guy cut’s a section into a book and places a ring box in it, for the proposal.
I would cry, in fact I would physically sob. How could he hurt a book like that, does he not know me at all! It’s the little things that show how much you know each other.
There are a few things I know I would like in a proposal:
1) Father of the bride.
Ask my parents for permission, I know it sounds old fashioned but they are a huge part of my life and for them to be involved in my proposal would wonderful.
Plus if the guy is clever, ask my mum about my ring. She would jump at the chance to point you in the right direction.
2) Two golden rings!
It doesn’t actually link into the proposal but I believe both people should have an engagement ring. So a guy should expect a ring back and wear it. Can I also point out that I don’t believe in that, 3 months of your salary rule. And I’m not saying this because I spend a lot of money on books or dresses. But go with what draws you in, the ring that you love. After all, isn’t that what happened with the one you love.
3) Romance, romance, where art thou romance?
At the end of the day, a proposal is about the two people involved and it really should symbolise their love for each other.
If you feel you are ready to spend the rest of your lives together, then you should have a good enough grasp of what makes her smile.
If all else fails raid her book and DVD collections, ideas galore!
I’m sorry I couldn’t tell you about a romantic walk along the beach, where ‘Will you marry me?’ Is written in the sand, champagne and chocolates are nestled on a picnic blanket and the man of my dreams is ready to get on to one knee, with the pink sapphire solitaire ring that he wants to place on my finger.
But sadly the man of my dreams has got a little lost and until he finds me I live in hope, with books full of romance and love in my heart!
*To my dream man, wherever he may be:
Google maps is great for directions.
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Thanks Kirsty! Tomorrow Nicky Wells tells us about her real-life proposal.