Kirsty from Love of a Good Book: Turn That No Into A Yes

To celebrate the launch of Millie and the American Proposal on Amazon, I’ve asked authors and bloggers to talk proposals. Today, it’s the turn of Kirsty from Love of a Good Book to tell us how not to propose to her. 

imageWhen Annabel mentioned this feature to me, I was excited to write about my dream proposal.

But the more I thought about it, the more I realised that I’ve never dreamt about a proposal.

Ask me what my wedding dress would be like, what my father and brother would be wearing (a kilt in our families tartan just in case you were wondering) and who my flower girl would be, these are things I’ve thought about.

I feel the need to clarify in case any potential suitors are reading, my thoughts drift to my wedding in a non crazy way, I don’t sit around in a wedding dress, writing out place settings and circling the singles page.

Anyway I digress, when it comes to proposals I’ve never thought about what how I would like to be proposed to, but I do however think about what I wouldn’t!

To anyone who has had the following proposals, I am not in anyway saying they lack romance or originality, I’m just saying they aren’t for me.

 1) If she says it isn’t working, don’t pull out the marriage card! 

What, I hear you cry, no one would do that!

This is the marriage proposal I have experienced.

After discovering we didn’t really know each other, yes he knew what I liked for dinner & how I took my drink but he didn’t seem to understand that I didn’t like cheating and that my lack of happiness was down to him and the several girls who messaged me on Facebook about him.

On the day that I expressed this, he fell to his knees (not one, both) and asked me to marry him. His belief that this gesture would fix everything, was thankfully, lost on me.

2) If it’s on the calendar it’s a no! 

I would hate to be asked on Christmas Day, My birthday, My parents’ anniversary. My niece’s birthday.

(noticing a pattern here)

These days are already special to me, they already hold beautiful memories. I would like a day that can become magical, a day that would hold all the promises of our future together. A day that can be both special for him and me.

3) Show me the bling! 

So he’s gone through all this effort of planning a proposal and you’ve said yes. But you don’t have a ring, any woman will tell you, that after they’ve contacted their friends and family they tend to be asked a few questions, how did it happen? Have you set a date yet? What’s the RING like?

The only acceptable venue for not having a ring would be a jewellery store.

4) Show me you know me! 

I  love books, I am often gushing over a book, it’s not a fact I hide.

So let’s imagine a guy cut’s a section into a book and places a ring box in it, for the proposal.

I would cry, in fact I would physically sob. How could he hurt a book like that, does he not know me at all!  It’s the little things that show how much you know each other.

There are a few things I know I would like in a proposal:

 1) Father of the bride.

Ask my parents for permission, I know it sounds old fashioned but they are a huge part of my life and for them to be involved in my proposal would wonderful.

Plus if the guy is clever, ask my mum about my ring. She would jump at the chance to point you in the right direction.

2) Two golden rings! 

It doesn’t actually link into the proposal but I believe both people should have an engagement ring. So a guy should expect a ring back and wear it. Can I also point out that I don’t believe in that, 3 months of your salary rule. And I’m not saying this because I spend a lot of money on books or dresses. But go with what draws you in, the ring that you love. After all, isn’t that what happened with the one you love.

3) Romance, romance, where art thou romance? 

At the end of the day, a proposal is about the two people involved and it really should symbolise their love for each other.

If you feel you are ready to spend the rest of your lives together, then you should have a good enough grasp of what makes her smile.

If all else fails raid her book and DVD collections, ideas galore!

I’m sorry I couldn’t tell you about a romantic walk along the beach, where ‘Will you marry me?’ Is written in the sand, champagne and chocolates are nestled on a picnic blanket and the man of my dreams is  ready to get on to one knee, with the pink sapphire solitaire ring that he wants to place on my finger.

But sadly the man of my dreams has got a little lost and until he finds me I live in hope, with books full of romance and love in my heart!

*To my dream man, wherever he may be:

Google maps is great for directions.

Kirsty runs the book blogging site Love of a Good Book: Find out more:

@minionsofbooks

http://theloveofagoodbook.wordpress.com/

@loveofagoofbook

Facebook: LoveOf A Good Book

Thanks Kirsty! Tomorrow Nicky Wells tells us about her real-life proposal. 

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Talli Roland: My Real-life Proposal

To celebrate the launch of Millie and the American Proposal on Amazon, I’ve asked authors and bloggers to talk proposals. Today, it’s author Talli Roland’s turn to tell us about her very romantic real-life proposal. 

I’d never envisaged a marriage proposal – hell, I’d never envisaged marriage! So when my man popped the big question, my first response was incredulous laughter. Probably not the answer he was seeking, and definitely not the most romantic response. Eventually, after he’d shoved the ring under my nose and convinced me he was serious, I said yes.

Even though we’d been a couple for five years – in fact, we were celebrating our five-year anniversary that evening – we’d never discussed marriage. We knew we’d always be together, and we were happy with that. A ring, a white dress, a trip down the aisle amongst family and friends . . . well, it would have been nice, but not necessary. And for me, that’s what made the surprise proposal so romantic: that we didn’t need marriage to solidify our relationship. It was just the icing on the cake.

And it was very tasty icing! We’d recreated the evening we first met with a concert at the Royal Festival Hall then dinner on the South Bank, and we’d just strolled over to the spot of our first kiss when my then-boyfriend dropped to one knee. With the fairy lights twinkling and the sound of the Thames lapping beside us, I couldn’t have conjured up a better scenario myself.

Talli is a bestselling chick lit author – Find out more about her and her books:

http://www.talliroland.com

Twitter: @talliroland

Thanks Talli, what a romantic tale! Tomorrow, it’s the turn of Kirsty from Love of a Good Book. 

Cathy Bramley: My Proposal

To celebrate the launch of Millie and the American Proposal on Amazon, I’ve asked authors and bloggers to talk proposals. Today, it’s author Cathy Bramley’s turn to tell us about her very romantic real-life proposal. 

Cathy Bramley in a phone boxIt was the thirtieth of August, the day after my birthday, and our first night in Rhodes. We’d rented a tiny apartment a five minute walk to the beach and with views of the sea. After dinner al fresco and a walk on the sand, we headed back to the apartment and took a bottle of wine out on to the balcony. The sky was lit up with stars and the moon cast a golden glow across the sea. It was possibly one of the most romantic settings I could have wished for.

He seemed a little bit fidgety, but I put it down to sunburn. Then, out of the blue, he asked me to marry him. I was sitting on his lap at the time, so getting down on one knee was out of the question. My first reaction was a gasp of laughter followed by, ‘Do you mean it?’ He had meant it and both of our eyes filled with tears as I said that yes, I would love to marry him.

To my delight, he retrieved a small box from the pocket of his shorts. Inside was a gorgeous diamond ring, he took it out and slipped it on to my finger. It was a perfect fit. It meant so much that he had chosen a ring for me and I love it today as much as I did then.

Cathy is the author of Kindle bestseller Conditional Love. Find out more about Cathy: 

http://www.cathybramleyauthor.com

@CathyBramley

https://www.facebook.com/CathyBramleyAuthor

What a lovely story, thanks Cathy! Tomorrow Talli Roland will be telling us all about her real-life proposal. 

My real-life Proposal

To celebrate the launch of Millie and the American Proposal (tomorrow) I’ve been asking bloggers and authors to talk proposals – and I’m starting telling you the story of my proposal.

6452045When I was eighteen I visited the Palace of Versailles, Paris, and I fell in love with the gardens. They were elaborately romantic and I made my best friend promise that she’d tell the man of dreams that there was my perfect proposal location.

Fast forward ten years and it didn’t quite happen that way.

It didn’t happen anyway that I would have imagined. I invisaged it happening in many ways, and I often would find myself out with the boy thinking, this it, this is the moment.

Once when we were in Bangor, Northern Ireland, we were having a lovely stroll around the harbour and I convinced myself he was going to pop the question. It was a lovely day, there was a feeling of romance in the air and we had just stopped off to stretch the legs before we went to a restaurant near by. The whole fifteen minute walk, I was on tenterhooks waiting for something diamond like to appear. At one point, my other half even bent down to tie his shoe laces, giving me false hope.

When it did happen it took me completely by surprise. He’d been shopping in the jewellery quarter in Birmingham to find the perfect diamond with the right colour, cut, clarity and carat. There was just one problem, he wasn’t sure how to pop the question. We were off on a romantic mini-break the to the Malverns at Easter, and for a week in Barbados a few weeks later. But he picked neither.

Instead we were in my flat in an unassuming Sunday afternoon and were in bed after taking *coughs* an afternoon nap. He’d made the mistake the night before telling me that I had a present from his recent trip to see his parents, and like a dog with a bone I spent the whole day asking him what my present was. After I joked, was it small and sparkly, a ring box appeared in his hand, and he flipped it open to reveal the ring. I can’t remember if he actually asked me to marry him, or what we actually talked about as I was so stunned.

It was perfect for me, as the man that proposed was my perfect man. He could have proposed at the dump for all I cared, as it was him I wanted to marry!

Tomorrow is the turn of author Cathy Bramley.

Proposal Month

To celebrate the launch of ‘Millie and the American Proposal’ on Amazon, from next Monday, and every day for the rest of the month, I’m hosting bloggers and authors as they tell me about a proposal. It might be theirs, it might be their ultimate fantasy proposal or it might be the best on screen or in a book!

It wouldn’t be fair to ask others to share their story and not share my own, so I’m first up!

Find out more about Millie and the American Proposal 

The Proposal Countdown

Last week I sent away ‘Millie and the American Proposal’ to be line edited. This means it still needs to pass through the hands of my beta readers and it needs to be further edited by me, sent to a copy editor, and then double and triple checked before publication. But it does mean I’m one step closer to publishing it! It should be available on Amazon in January if all goes to plan.

I feel I can reveal a few teasers of the plot now…

Millie’s boyfriend James gets offered a job in Singapore, which he accepts thinking that she’ll will give up her job and her life and follow him. Only Millie gets offered a work secondment to New York which is too good an opportunity to turn down. When she arrives in the city, she soon discovers that she’s not the only one new in town; her ex-boyfriend, Rob, is back, and separated from his wife. As Millie tries to work out what she wants from life, she’s got to work out whether she’s Team James of Team Rob as she gets her very own American Proposal.

So what do you think – are you #teamJames or #teamRob?

I’ll be posting the first chapter here soon!

In the mean time if you need to catch up on the story – Millie and the American Wedding – on Amazon Millie and the American University – on Amazon.